“Though the Witch knew the Deep Magic, there is a magic deeper still which she did not know. Her knowledge goes back only to the dawn of time. But if she could have looked a little further back… she would have known that when a willing victim who had committed no treachery was killed in a traitor’s stead, the Table would crack and Death itself would start working backward.” - Aslan, C.S. Lewis, The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe

I Gave Him a Time, a Format, and a Medical Boundary. He Pretended Not to Read.



SWANK Communication Log

If You Can’t Accommodate My Lungs, You Can’t Pretend It’s a Meeting

Filed: 18 March 2024

Labels: Disability DisregardForced MeetingsSafeguarding IllusionEmail Clarity IgnoredCore Group IntrusionsProcedural Faux-Inclusion


✸ WELCOME TO SWANK
An Archive of ✦ Elegance, ✦ Complaint, ✦ and Unapologetic Standards
from a Mother Harassed by the State in Two Countries for Over a Decade.


✦ The Exchange

On 18 March 2024, I responded to an email from Edward Kendall, a Senior Practitioner with Westminster’s North West Social Work Team, regarding yet another manufactured meeting under the guise of child protection.

Let me be clear:
already stated—repeatedly—that I cannot speak out loud due to a respiratory disability.
already confirmed that I prefer written communication.
already offered a time, place, and format that worked for my health and my children’s schedule.


✦ My Response

I confirmed we had a prior commitment:
❖ Romeo’s class that afternoon
I suggested a more suitable alternative:
❖ Tomorrow at 4pm to meet the children
I stated my legal adjustment needs:
❖ Virtual meeting preferred
❖ No verbal speech required
❖ Written response only to avoid lung stress

I even provided my number and clarified that email is always best.


✦ Their Response?

Despite my clear message, Edward continued to propose in-person visitsoral meetings, and drop-ins, demonstrating a complete lack of regard for:
— My respiratory condition
— My communication boundaries
— My previously submitted complaints
— The principle of informed consent


✦ The Pattern is Clear

When a mother documents everything,
the state pretends it wasn’t said.

When a mother says she can’t speak,
they ask her to talk louder.

When a mother sets a time,
they knock when they want.


✦ Final Word

Accommodations are not a courtesy.
They are a legal requirement.
My lungs are not a debate.
My children’s routine is not a variable.
And your refusal to respond in kind is the real safeguarding concern.


Filed under: Disability IgnoranceWritten Consent BoundariesMedical Accommodation RefusalSafeguarding as ExcuseCommunication Abuse


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