⟡ You Forgot to Invite the Father. And the Children. To a Meeting About Them. ⟡
“It’s not a family conference if you exclude the family.”
Filed: 2 November 2024
Reference: SWANK/WCC/EMAILS-05
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Written objection to Westminster Children’s Services for excluding the children's father and the children themselves from meetings held under the guise of family engagement.
I. What Happened
On 2 November 2024, the parent issued a written correction to Westminster Children’s Services after learning that:
Her husband — the children's father — had never once been invited to any official meetings
Her sons, Regal and Prerogative, were excluded from participation in discussions directly concerning their lives
The family had to self-invite to a meeting that was supposedly about them
Despite Westminster’s repeated claims of transparency and family inclusion, meeting invitations had become procedurally selective — excluding adult guardians and children alike.
The email formally demanded inclusion.
And now it formally exists in the evidentiary archive.
II. What the Complaint Establishes
That Westminster failed to notify or invite the children’s father to case planning meetings
That children were excluded from meetings where their futures were discussed without representation
That procedural inclusion was only offered retroactively and reactively, after parental objection
That safeguarding meetings functioned more as closed strategy sessions than participatory processes
That the institution only engages the family after it’s been corrected — not before
III. Why SWANK Logged It
Because if a father isn’t invited, it’s not lawful procedure — it’s institutional exclusion.
Because if children must be invited by their own parent — it’s not child-centred practice.
Because calling it a “family meeting” while gatekeeping who attends is not concern — it’s choreography.
You didn’t forget.
You chose.
And we chose to record it.
IV. Violations
Children Act 1989 / 2004
Breach of duty to ensure parental involvement and child voice in all relevant safeguarding processesWorking Together to Safeguard Children (Statutory Guidance)
Violation of principles of family participation, transparency, and informed engagementHuman Rights Act 1998 – Article 8
Interference with family life and lawful parental responsibilitiesEquality Act 2010
Procedural discrimination against a disabled parent requiring written communication
V. SWANK’s Position
This was not a scheduling error.
It was a procedural decision.
This was not a family meeting.
It was an institutional monologue.
Children don’t exist to be discussed.
They exist to be included.
And when you forget to invite the father —
We don’t resend the invitation. We file the complaint.
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