SWANK Compliance Memo
I Said Yes, But Only in Writing. He Heard “Keep Pushing.”
Filed: 19 March 2024
Labels: Disability Disregard, Communication Boundary Violations, Virtual Accommodation Evasion, Consent Misinterpretation, Social Work Persistence Theatre
⚖️ WELCOME TO SWANK
An Archive of ✦ Elegance, ✦ Complaint, ✦ and Unapologetic Standards
by a Mother Harassed by the State in Two Countries for Over a Decade.
✦ Context
After a series of overreaches and unsolicited scheduling attempts, Edward Kendall of Westminster City Council finally confirmed a time:
🕘 Friday, 22 March, 9:30 AM
📍 Core Group Meeting
I agreed.
Politely.
Clearly.
In writing.
But make no mistake: this was not consent to anything but the bare minimum.
✦ What I Had Already Stated
• I cannot speak orally due to a documented respiratory condition
• I require non-verbal accommodations
• I prefer virtual meetings
• My schedule is already full with my children's education
• Communication must be via email
✦ What Edward Tried Anyway
He continued to suggest:
➤ An in-person home visit
➤ A dual-purpose meeting to “also meet the children”
➤ A plan to “type to one another” during the meeting—
as if typing is an innovative accommodation rather than exactly what I already asked for via email.
✦ SWANK Translation:
He took:
“Please don’t make me speak. I’ll email you everything you need.”
And turned it into:
“Let me show up anyway and try to multitask the meeting with a surprise home observation.”
No thank you.
✦ Final Word
This is not partnership.
It’s performative flexibility wrapped in polite paternalism.
You can’t violate medical boundaries and call it compassion.
You can’t ignore documented communication adjustments and call it "efficient planning."
My health is not a scheduling inconvenience.
It’s a legal boundary.
And I already gave you the answer—in writing.
Filed under: Medical Adjustment Refusal, Verbal Coercion Tactics, Social Work Efficiency Myths, Non-Compliance Theatre, State Ignorance of Consent