SWANK Access Denial Record
I Asked for Oxygen. They Asked for Compliance.
Filed: 1 March 2024
Labels: Disability Disregarded, Asthma as Defiance, Forced Speech Under Distress, Access Denied by Process, Motherhood Under Medical Siege, Systemic Retaliation for Self-Advocacy
♖ WELCOME TO SWANK ♖
An Archive of ✦ Elegance, ✦ Complaint, ✦ and Unapologetic Standards
from a Mother Harassed by the State in Two Countries for Over a Decade.
✦ What I Said
“I have asked repeatedly for accommodations due to my severe eosinophilic asthma; however, you seem to be unable to understand.”
This is not confusion.
This is a choice—
to ignore medical evidence
and call it noncompliance.
“I cannot talk due to shortness of breath… When I am forced to talk… I am unable to remain polite.”
You treat breathlessness as a behaviour.
You treat health boundaries as defiance.
You mistake oxygen deprivation for attitude.
✦ How I Am Treated
“Society continues to use social work as a weapon to attack me when I am unable to comply with their requests due to my disability.”
This is not support.
This is punishment for not performing wellness.
This is a coercive loop:
• If I stay silent—I’m withholding.
• If I speak—I’m erratic.
• If I write—you don’t read it.
“You and others misinterpret my advocacy… and call it aggressive/erratic.”
Because the system expects compliance, not communication.
Especially not written, documented, factual communication.
✦ My Physician’s Words
“The doctor explained to me… that when a human is unable to breathe, it’s very scary, and they do act erratic because of the urgency…”
This is not behavioural misconduct.
This is biology under threat.
This is a neurochemical cascade, not parenting style.
“Lack of oxygen to the brain impedes cognitive function.”
But to you, this reads as “attitude.”
You’ve replaced medical insight with moral judgement.
✦ The Simple Ask
“What accommodations have you decided to employ…?”
You were told—clearly, repeatedly—that I cannot speak.
You still demanded oral participation.
You scheduled meetings I could not attend.
You are not making accommodations.
You are enforcing barriers.
✦ Final Word
I can’t walk.
I can’t breathe.
And yet, I’m the one accused of being difficult.
You say you’re here to support families.
But what you’re doing is trying to make me collapse in public—
so you can say I was unfit.
Filed under: Procedural Inaccessibility, Weaponised Meetings, Punishment for Medical Honesty, Forced Verbalism, When Asthma Becomes a Referral